Countless men for about a million  years have struggled with this question. even before humans could effectively use speech the average man, I’ll assume, struggled to comprehend the inner workings of the female mind. why is that?

• Is it because our minds are hard wired different?
• Is it because our instincts are developed and fine tuned to procreate successfully and keep our species alive and well?
• Is it because man’s logic driven brains are unequipped to think like a female, so we can’t actually put ourselves in the proverbial shoes of  a woman. (Especially if she’s wearing 6 inch stilettos!)
• Is it all the reasons I’ve listed above…and more?

If you have found yourself, as an “average man” (a generalized term I use meaning -men that don’t fit into the category of drop dead gorgeous, famous and rich), stating to your guy friends that you just don’t understand women, you’re not alone. If you’re a woman reading this and you have found yourself agreeing with your girlfriends how much you wish the men in your life could just understand you, you are not alone. Look around and listen closely to the way women and men interact and you will see time and time again, the same drawn out pattern. A frustrated look on her face, and a dumbfounded and occasionally annoyed look on his face. Pay close attention how his attitude turns somewhat condescending towards her and how this only annoys her even more.

I wouldn’t be writing this if I didn’t believe the average man could understand women. I think it is possible. I also think it is possible to logical breakdown the amazing female mind and use this information to give her what most women truly desire…

….A real man to listen, respond with affirmation, and repeat as many times as needed

… A real man for whom her emotions can connect with on many different levels

…A real man just to be there for her, and unpredictably give her movie like experiences she can brag to her friends about

The list goes on but let’s discuss the issue of what separates her preferences from what she truly desires because I believe they are different.

Preferences are malleable. They are fluid and change throughout a woman’s life. They are usually associated with how she is feeling that day, that week, that month, and even the last current relationship she was in. we must remember though, they are just preferences and I can guarantee that if a guy changes his life to fit into a preference of any one certain woman, he will be taking a big step into the abyss of misunderstanding women. He will be just  that much more unattractive in her mind.

Desires are completely different because I believe they are driven by our instincts. When we find ourselves wanting something and not being able to explain exactly why, we are experiencing a form of  desire. Now relating this back to women and how it pertains to preferences. I can guarantee if you change your life to fit into a woman’s true desires, you’ll be taking a major step towards what very few men experience, a never ending stream of women just wanting to be around you in one way or another. You will be just that much more attractive to her.

So we’ve gained a little insight into how a woman thinks just by breaking down two separate, yet loosely stated definitions. A great way to advance closer to understanding women is to first respect her preferences and more importantly, acknowledge them. Secondly, set your life up accordingly to appeal to her desires.  You’re probably thinking now if I don’t know her desires, or if she doesn’t make clear of her preferences, how is all this going to help the average guy understand women? Once you begin to follow those rules listed above you’ll start seeing certain patterns. Here are two simple questions that I hear mostly from men:

Why doesn’t she like me for who I am?

Why is that we get along so well but she only wants to be friends?

Two separate questions that actually have one answer. she prefers to be around you but  you didn’t initially appeal to her desires. her desires can not be changed, manipulated, or molded to fit  who you are. People in general have no control over what they feel; they only have control over how they act on them. Just because she prefers a man of your type doesn’t mean she has feelings for you. So stop concerning yourself so much by what she prefers and start focusing on what she desires. If you do this you’ll start to find her preferences will actually change even if you didn’t initially fit into her preconceived notions of what she wants. Now how do you do this? although there are a few easy ways to start the process,  I can not possibly cover it all with this one article.

But don’t worry, there is hope. I firmly believe that any man, if chooses to step in the right direction, can understand women.  They just might have to lose all their preconceived ideas of what is commonly considered socially accepted.

Can the Average Man Understand Women?

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